Grief and the importance of connection
Grief is a journey that many families will navigate at some stage in their lives. It’s how life works. Yet the difference in how a family moves through their collective grief is in their ability to connect, communicate and hold space for each other.
Whether it is an ageing relative, parent, Grandparent or friend, loss and grief can look different for many people. There is no correct way to respond to such a loss as the death of a loved one. For many young people, they will look to the adults around them for cues on how to respond and how grieving should look. Allowing them time to process the loss and respond in their own way, while answering any questions they have can help them make sense of their world.
Some people need others around them and to talk it through, while others need time alone to process their thoughts and feelings. Sometimes words can never convey the weight of grief and loss, with actions being enough for young people to know they are loved, that it is ok to be sad and that we will get through this season. Walks on the beach, sitting with them and extra hugs might be what is needed.
Formal rituals and remembrances like funerals and wakes may seem overwhelming for young people. Yet there are opportunities for families to create their own rituals and ways to navigate challenging times, loss and significant days. Allowing space for remembering their loved one and allowing all emotions, including happiness and joy, can be a way to help everyone move forward.
Grief is a normal part of life and people experiencing loss do not need fixing. They may need time, understanding and support to help process the loss now and into the future. When we create spaces for families and young people to feel heard, seen and valued, their ability to navigate life and all it’s challenges in greatly improved.
Written by Mark Koen
